Selina Boateng Warns That Lack of Understanding Is Undermining Marriages
Gospel singer Selina Boateng has opened up about the pitfalls of rushing into marriage, urging young people to take a more thoughtful and self-aware approach before making lifelong commitments.
In a heartfelt interview with Okay FM, the renowned artist shared her concerns about the societal pressure many individuals face to get married, warning that it often leads people into relationships they are emotionally or mentally unprepared to handle.
“Marriage is not something to enter into because people expect you to,” Selina stressed. “It’s a decision that requires maturity, wisdom, and the ability to deal with complex emotional challenges.”
Drawing from her own experience, the singer highlighted how people often conceal their true personalities before marriage. According to her, certain attitudes and behaviours only emerge after the wedding—and by then, many individuals feel trapped.
“Some people pretend before marriage, only for their real character to show later. And let’s be honest, there are habits and traits that simply won’t change, no matter how hard you try,” she cautioned.
Selina went on to explain that marriage isn’t just about love and romance—it also involves navigating difficult situations, including disagreements, emotional strain, and even abuse. She believes that only individuals with a high level of emotional intelligence and resilience can manage these challenges successfully.
“It takes very mature people to deal with issues like a nagging spouse, abusive behaviour, or even addiction. If you’re not prepared, those things can break you,” she said.
She also addressed those who impose pressure on others to marry quickly, noting that many of them are privately enduring unhappy marriages. Selina believes that these individuals often mask their struggles with a public display of marital bliss, misleading others into thinking that marriage is always joyful.
“People who pressure others to marry are sometimes dealing with problems in their own homes. They smile in public, but behind closed doors, things are falling apart,” she said.
Her reflections come in the wake of her own recent divorce. Selina Boateng married Isaac Berchie on December 7, 2019, in a ceremony held at the Church of Pentecost, Maakro Central, in Kumasi. After six years, however, the marriage came to an end.
For Selina, ending the marriage was a difficult but liberating decision. She says that being single again has freed her from constant questions about her personal life and given her the space to reflect and grow.
“I feel lighter now. I no longer carry the burden of trying to explain or defend what I was going through. I’m at peace,” she shared.
Selina also revealed that despite being divorced, she doesn’t view her status negatively. In fact, she considers it a necessary step for her own well-being. She made it clear that if she ever decides to remarry, it will be on her own terms—and not to meet anyone’s expectations.
“My phone has been busy—I have suitors,” she said with a laugh. “I’m open to love again. Whether I’ll marry a pastor again, only time and God will tell.”
The gospel musician’s honesty about her personal journey has resonated with many, especially young women who face similar pressures. Through her story, Selina Boateng is challenging harmful social norms and encouraging others to prioritise their mental and emotional readiness over external expectations.
Her message is clear: marriage should not be rushed. It is a sacred and serious commitment that requires self-awareness, patience, and the strength to navigate both joy and hardship.
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